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read moreI am a BACP Accredited Counsellor and Relate trained Relationship Counsellor. I have over twenty five years counselling experience as well as a background working in Mental Health as a Community based Psychiatric Occupational therapist. I can help you to understand what a "healthy relationship" should look like and how to improve communication and accommodate difference. We look at the triggers, how to manage the physical symptoms and strategies to prevent anger turning into hot rage. I use a combination of CBT and Psychodynamic therapies - this means we explore your past experiences of anger and make sense of how these impact on the present.

read moreI work in a truly collaborative way with you where I see us working through the issues that you present to me within the counselling process in order for you to understand and make sense of them. Where appropriate I may set homework, tasks or suggest a book to read between sessions because I want you to get as much as possible from the counselling process. It is also important for me to say that I can't wave a magic wand and pretend that you will leave me singing and dancing into the sunset, however the time spent in the counselling sessions will enable you to look at yourself and your relationships in a different and healthier way.

read moreAccording to Dr Kristin Neff, having compassion for oneself is really no different than having compassion for others. To have compassion for others you must notice that they are suffering and feel moved by it and therefore you will feel warmth, caring and a desire to help that person. You also offer understanding and kindness to others when they fail or make mistakes and realise that this is part of the shared human experience. Self-Compassion involves a way of relating to yourself that allows you to become more emotionally flexible, able to navigate challenging emotions, and enhance your connection to self and others.

read moreWe all feel angry at times but it can be a real problem and impact on others when it's unhealthy and turns to aggression or rage. When anger gets distorted there is no positive outcome. Anger is an expression of emotion, can be subtle and is in the here and now. Rage is a reaction borne of self at risk, unmediated by rational processes, unpredictable, a culmination of appeasing and resentments, and can be dangerous and physical. Rage is often seen as a defence mechanism when we feel that we have been unfairly treated or disrespected, or that others have broken or fallen short of our rules, standards or expectations.

read moreI work with Young People over the age of sixteen and trained as a Relate Young People's Counsellor. I do see many Young People with anxiety, depression or who self harm. I have considerable experience of Mental Health having worked in this field for over six years. I want to be supportive and non-judgemental and offer you a safe space to talk about your worries. I often use SFBT (Solution Focused Brief Therapy) in conjunction with talking therapy. We will focus on identifying your goals which generates a detailed description of what your life will look like when your goal is accomplished and the problem has either gone or coped with satisfactorily.

read moreAnyone can be affected by Depression and one in four of us may experience it over a lifetime. It is often how we feel, think or our personality traits like low self esteem and self worth that keep Depression going. We have all experienced being low, unhappy or sad at one time or another however the following symptoms may be indicative of something more serious. Together we can look at ways to break the cycle by using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and completing Thought Record Sheets to find an alternative response and a healthier more balanced perspective to the ways you think, feel and behave.

read moreThe sessions last fifty minutes and I usually suggest that at the beginning we work on a weekly basis. If you have difficulty with work commitments I am able to be flexible. This is very much a fact finding session whereby I will ask you to tell me in your own time why you have come to see me and how you think counselling may help. Then we will explore together what I can offer you through the counselling process., whether you could work with me and therefore wish to return for future sessions.

read moreIn my experience students have really benefited from SFBT (Solution Focused Brief Therapy) where the belief for change is constant. By helping you to identify positive directions in your life and attend to changes currently in place you have the potential to re-write your internal scripts and stories and so create a better future. This therapy is broadly based around questions - The Miracle Question, Exception, Coping, and Scaling Questions. Problem Free Talk will help you to uncover hidden resources - your values, beliefs and strengths - allowing me to move the therapy forward.